Do you find the idea of it scary and challenging?
Many of us fear change because we are worried about what it will bring with it, so we carry on with what we have got or where we are because it is safe. Sometimes this safety can be our very undoing.
Okay. If you are happy why would you want to change? Life is perfect and that’s the way we like it. However, the one thing you can bank on is that things change all the time and sometimes change can make things even better.
Think about your Christmas dinner, many people I talk to don’t like Turkey or Figgy pudding but they still have it every year because it’s tradition and it’s almost that if we change it something bad will happen.
To quote Ben Franklin, "When you're finished changing, you're finished."
I quite like the challenge of changing things around; sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t but it’s always scary and interesting and actually, I learn a lot about myself. It’s never as bad as I think it going to be and not making the changes leave me in a rut and in some cases causes more damage than doing nothing. I spent many years in the same rut, fighting against everything that was pushing to be changed at home, at work and in life in general. That push went on for many years until circumstances (or the universe depending on your beliefs) said “right I have had enough of your inertia” and decided to completely pull the rug from under my feet. Yes, it was scary, I lost a lot of the things I had built up… or at least thought I had built up and was taken back to basics. What I didn’t realise though, was that many of the stuff I was holding onto was poisoning my life, my existence and the very people around me. I was sad and dull, old before my time and I had lost people along the way. The positive part is that as a result I had to start again and it was the best thing that could have happened. Once the dust settled I found the “me” that I needed to restart. I’ve now got tons of energy, I feel a lot younger (even if I don’t look it), I am building day by day and I have true friends around me. Even though I know there is still work to be done, I now feel able to get on with it.
So, for those of you who want to move forward, I am not saying throw it all away and start again but there is life on the other side.
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